In "A Father's Love," David Goldman shares his five-year battle to bring his son, Sean, back to the United States after Sean was abducted by his mother, Bruna, who wanted to raise Sean in her native Brazil. Goldman describes the emotions he went through and how he got support from both high-level U.S. government officials and national media organizations. Here, Goldman writes about the first few days of what was supposed to be a two-week trip for Bruna and Sean. Read an excerpt:
Chapter 1: The phone call

Viking
A TWO-WEEK TRIP — that’s all it was supposed to be. Two weeks. I didn’t relish the idea of being apart from my wife, Bruna, and our four-year-old son, Sean, not even for two weeks, but it was unavoidable. I had to work. I can handle it, I kept reminding myself. After all, I had clients scheduled aboard my charter fishing boat during the first week my wife and son would be gone. After that, I planned to join Bruna and Sean for the latter part of their vacation in Brazil, my wife’s birthplace. In a few days, we’d be back together as a family again.
I loaded the suitcases — there were more than the usual number of them — into my Jeep Cherokee SUV, along with Bruna’s parents’ luggage. Although citizens of Brazil, my in-laws. Raimundo and Silvana Ribeiro, owned a condominium in New Jersey, and visited often, sometimes for a month or two at a time. The night before, we had attended a local carnival sponsored by St. Leo’s Church, and Bruna’s parents had been at our home the day of the trip, after going out to lunch with my parents. Everyone got along as usual, two happy families united as one, with no tension among any of us and never a cross word between us. Now Sean’s maternal grandfather, Raimundo — or Ray, as he was known in the United States — and his grandmother, Silvana, were returning to Brazil with Bruna and Sean.
It wasn’t the first time during our four-year marriage that Bruna had visited her homeland. She and I had traveled to Brazil before Sean was born. Bruna took great pleasure in spending time with her friends in her old stomping grounds. I enjoyed surfing off the beautiful beaches of Barra, a suburb of Rio de Janeiro. We both savored Brazil’s barbecues and delicious mangoes. Bruna took Sean to visit our extended family a few months after his birth, and had made the trip by herself for her grandmother’s funeral a few years earlier. More recently, in March 2004, she and a friend and fellow teacher at the school where Bruna taught went to Brazil during the school’s spring break. So it didn’t strike me as unusual for us to plan a trip during the summer, after Bruna completed her teaching responsibilities for the 2004 spring semester. We usually traveled as a family to Brazil twice a year, once during Bruna’s winter break and once during the summer. Just as any couple whose family members live in different locations, we made special efforts to enjoy time together with all of our relatives, especially after Sean was born. Although Rio was a dangerous place, as Bruna and her parents often reminded me, it was still her hometown in her native land and it was beautiful. We wanted Sean to be familiar with both cultures, and to know that he was part of something much bigger than himself.
On Wednesday, June 16, 2004, I drove the family to Newark’s Liberty International Airport to begin their vacation. Under Brazilian law, when any one parent travels alone with a child to Brazil, the other parent or guardian is required to sign a letter of authorization. So before the trip, as part of normal procedures, I signed the release authorizing Bruna to take Sean out of the country for a limited period of time.
Since I was going to see the two of them in a week or so, I didn’t think much of it at the time. Besides, I was busy planning Bruna’s thirtieth birthday party. As a surprise present for her, I hoped to have our kitchen redone while she was out of the country. I was also working on an itinerary for another family trip to Turnberry Isle in Florida — one that would include Bruna’s mom and dad — to celebrate her birthday in mid-August after we had all returned from Brazil. Ordinarily when we vacationed together, I made the arrangements. Having traveled as much as I had over the years, I found it easy to book all the family members’ flights and hotels, and handle all the other details myself. But this time, Bruna’s mom kept protesting, saying, “Oh, we can take care of that from Brazil.” This struck me as odd, but I thought, Okay, fine. We’ll make the arrangements from Brazil.
At the airport, after I got Sean comfortably situated from his stroller, I helped carry Bruna’s, Sean’s, and my in-laws’ suitcases into the busy Newark terminal. I assisted in getting all the suitcases checked in, then walked Bruna and Sean to the security area in front of the Jetway leading to their flight. With passengers bustling all around us, I kissed Bruna and Sean good-bye and embraced Bruna’s parents.
I watched as my family went through the initial identification checkpoint and started down the hallway toward their flight. Then, as we always did when one of us was traveling, Bruna and Sean stopped and turned toward me, and we used sign language for our final good-bye. I pointed to my eye, my heart, and then to Bruna and Sean, and mouthed the words “I love you.” Bruna and Sean pointed to their eyes, their hearts, and then back at me: “I love you.” Bruna turned and followed her parents down the Jetway, toward the security metal detector, pushing Sean in the stroller as she went. I watched them until I could no longer see them, and waited a few minutes longer in case they had forgotten anything or there was a last-minute flight cancellation. Then I returned to our vehicle and headed back to our home in Tinton Falls, New Jersey. It was going to be long, lonely night.
In many ways, ours had been a storybook romance. I met Bruna Bianchi Ribeiro in 1997 in Milan, Italy, where I was working as a fashion model and she was studying fashion. We moved back to New Jersey, where we were married in 1999, and in May 2000, Bruna gave birth to Sean. We had a beautiful marriage, an ideal little family; it was perfect in every way, and we were head over heels in love.
At least so I thought.
The day after their flight, Bruna called from Brazil to let me know that she and the family and arrived safely. “Sean is so excited,” she gushed. “He’s eating mangoes and he just loves it here.”
Bruna’s unusual emphasis on how happy Sean was to be back in Brazil seemed a bit over the top, but I was glad my wife and son were safe and sound and already enjoying their vacation. We talked briefly, then said our “I love you’s” and our good-byes.
On Sunday, June 20, Bruna called again. I could tell immediately from the tone of her voice that something was wrong, but I would not have guessed what she was about to say. “You’re a great guy, David, and a wonderful father to Sean. I have no regrets about our relationship and having Sean together.”
I didn’t even have time to wonder where Bruna was going with this line of thought, as she continued without a pause, almost as though following a script.
“Our love affair is over. I’ve decided to stay in Brazil,” she said. “I’m keeping Sean here with me.”
Whooom! It was as though the earth had suddenly dropped out from under me, and I was hanging in midair. “What? What! What are you talking about, Bruna?” I could not believe what I was hearing. Our love affair? What about our marriage? The tone of voice with which she said those words to me was one I had never before heard from her. She sounded cold, calculating, and unemotional — not at all like the upbeat, vivacious, passionate woman to whom I was married.
I remember thinking, What is this? Where is this coming from? The person I loved, and envisioned loving for the rest of my life, until death do us part, had suddenly become as cold as ice.
It got worse. Bruna had a list of demands. “You need to come here immediately,” she said. I want you to sign over the full rights of Sean to me. If you ever want to see Sean again, you need to fly to Rio de Janeiro immediately. I have a document my lawyer has drawn up, and you need to sign it.”
Lawyer? What lawyer? And how could she have secured such a document? She had been gone only a few days! It never occurred to me that this might have been a meticulously devised plan by Bruna and her parents in collusion with a Brazilian attorney.
According to Bruna, the document she wanted me to sign was ten pages in length and spelled out several demands, including that Sean remain with Bruna and her family in Brazil, and that I surrender my legal role as Sean’s parent, in addition to giving full custody to Bruna. “And you need to agree never to press any criminal charges. Never to go to the police in the U.S. to file kidnapping charges, never file any custody papers in the U.S. courts, never file for separation or divorce in the United States, and you must do nothing that will interfere with my plans to obtain U.S. citizenship.”
My brain was reeling, my body convulsing; I felt nauseated. Bruna, what is going on here? I was shocked and devastated at the same time.
“David, if you do any of those things and go against what I want — if you hire a lawyer — you will never see your son again, and you will spend all your money trying.”
“Bruna, what is happening?”
Bruna was done and she wanted to get off the phone. “You must come here, David,” she demanded.
“I can’t believe this…”
“You need to come here now. Bye.” Click. The phone line went dead.
I hung up the phone. My knees gave out, and I slumped to the floor, my face in my hands, my head still spinning, my heart pounding. I thought it might explode into a thousand pieces. My mind refused to fathom what I had just heard, yet there had been no equivocation in Bruna’s words. She had made herself quite clear. Our marriage was over, and she planned to keep our four-year-old son, Sean, in Brazil.
Our son, my buddy, my baby boy, Sean. I loved that little guy more than my own life. This couldn’t be happening. I was crushed and confused, distraught and disoriented, by this ghastly turn of events. I had never felt so alone in all my life.
I called my parents. My mom answered the phone. “Mom…” I struggled to get sound out of my mouth.
“Oh, hi, David,” she answered cheerfully. “Happy Father’s Day.”
Happy Father’s Day? My wife has just run off with my son. It was not a happy Father’s Day at all. It was the start of six years in a father’s hell.
From "A Father's Love: One Man’s Unrelenting Battle to Bring His Abducted Son Home" by David Goldman. Copyright © 2011. Reprinted by permission of Viking, part of the Penguin Group.


I'm not really seeing a difference between the slanderous account of the boy's mother being given and the parental alientation/rainwashing being perpetrated by Mr. Goldman now against the boy's deceased mother. I know what love is, and this doesn't seem to be the motivation of the father here.
Are you kidding me? Seriously? This poor man has been struggling for five years to get his son back from a totally selfish and manipulative family. This story proved to be that there is indeed a God and yes, sometimes justice does indeed prevail!!!
why is Sean so stoic and speaks with his teeth clenched, all that he's been through, it seems his defense is to "tuck away", no....he should be encouraged to talk about his mom and should have contact with his Brazillian family to maintain balance in his life....both sides seem to be bourgouis and fake, they need another therapist too, who is encouraged not to think of their grandparents no matter the culture and circumstance, the mom was scandolous and involved her Brazillian family with her side of the story, there are two sides to every story, that boy still needs help and is still being brainwashed. Honor his mother no matter what and give him freedom to communicate with his maternal family too. Don't be selfish and take all of his culture away from him, get another therapist and make the maternal side be civil too!..Great Story!
she's doing it to me. the town pig is part of the problem, social worker started it. battered women terrorists and victims advocate in the prosecutors office; all guilty. defense counsel won't, prosecutor and judge have attempted my life... vawa doesn't protect women, mr leahy. it kills the human and civil rights of the child victims and their father... it kills fathers by the thousands. read thomasjamesball. she's uneducated; provincal even. dangerous to the kids. "mom's pretending to be happy... AROUND US." that's pretty sad for a 6yo to know. if my children go to china now, i'm going to want the judge imprisoned until they are returned. these ppl (above) are in a conspiracy to commit treason. note my little one isn't happy in pic? she's a happy one when i'm with her. by state, nullify vawa, asfa, capta, and ss part IV-D. this will take the money out of the child abduction industry. end support for "battered women" until the 30-90% fraud rate of false claims is solved... and disassemble the family courts. "best interest of the child"= adolph hitler. when we forget what our rights were, we get tyranny. part of becoming a father today involves becoming a family law attorney. this means all fathers! a bulletproof prenup is a requirement today too, as is a custody arrangement which protects our kids from the divorce fraud/ child abduction industry. as for prosecuting the judge; grand jury bills, presented to a federal attorney, should do the trick. ... it doesn't hurt to find a good gf, too.
The power of a parent's love is boundless! No matter what anyone says. I applaud Sean's father for going the distance. As a single father I also fought for my child in a bitter divorce. My ex was an alcoholic and cheated on me in front of our child then made false allegations against me. With a good lawyer and God I was awarded custody after the case went to the Iowa Supreme Court. There are MANY good fathers out here, they just don't get the credit they deserve. Sean's mother chose to commit a crime by fleeing the United States without permission from the biological father and ingnoring International law. No matter what anyone says, this is a great father who only sought to be reunited with his child. Thats all the motiviation I see here. He is only telling his story as I am sure others would too. I did not see ANY MALICE to his deceased spouse on her fleeing to Brazil. I applaued Sean's father and wish them the best in life.
Well Said!!!
Totally one sided story presented here tonight. To understand the full scope of what transpired
one needs to know the truth as to why Sean's mother Bruna left and went back home to Brazil and
her parents. She was fed up with a man who when he learned of her true wealth quit his job and
refused to go back to work. Dateline should interview Bruna's friends who know the real facts
of why she felt the need to back home to her parents. Bruna was fed up and at the end of her rope.
You obviously have not been following this story for the past five years. She was a totally selfish woman who literally ripped her husband of his son. I am elated with the outcome of this story, and could not wait to watch the entire details of this totally happy ending tonight!!!
Kathy..... I have not only followed the story...I know the story. The media has shown it's true colors
in the biased reporting of what has really transpired here. You and others are judging the
actions of a woman you don't know solely on that biased reporting that carefully omitted key
elements of this story. They had plenty of oppotunity to interview Bruna's friends and other family
members to include their side of why Bruna went back to her parents and her family in the only place she
knew as home ...Brazil. They chose not to so they could slant the story in David's favor.
Let me just say this....if I married a man who after I married him learned of my family's true wealth
decided to quit his job and then refused to go to work living day after day- month after month- year after
year- very comfortably on my family money I'd give him the boot and go home too! I just wouldn't have
been as patient with the situation as Bruna.
Right now David is playing the same game with Sean as he has been accusing Bruna's parents of by not
allowing any of Bruna's other family members to see or talk with Sean...many of which have remained
neutral throughout this ordeal. So what does that make him...two wrongs do not make a right!
One day Sean will be old enough to make his own decisions. for now David is holding what he perceives as
his little dividend captive from the rest of his family, but it won't last forever...nothing ever does!
I agree with Kathy Finn. I, too, have been following this story from the first time it aired. I don't think David Goldman had any choice but to get the media involved because the international laws regarding abducted children is vague and especially when it comes to Latin American countries.
I knew a woman doctor in Texas whose son was abducted to Israel and she ended up going to lawschool to learn the laws so she could find her child. And I don't know if she ever found him. Thus, I give David Goldman kudos for all he has done to get Sean beck in the United States. And I don't think his Brazilian grandmother should see the child until Sean is ready to do so.
Although his eyes seemed very sad to me, he appeared to be older than 11 years old during his interview with Meredith Viera, who appeared to be careful to tactfully ask the questions about his abduction and readjustment being back with his father.
Fortunately, David and Sean Goldman are going through therapy but it may not abate an "attachment disorder" later on until he understands all the facts of why he was abducted. But with his father's and paternal grandparents love and attention it will hopefully become easier for him as he grows older.
I think his mother Bruna was an unscrupulous woman to deny her son his father without acknowledging and/or trying to work out her differences with whatever she felt was wrong in her marriage to David Goldman who obviously had no clue until after she had taken Sean to Brazil. I applaud David Goldman for the valiant fight for his son Sean and that he never gave up the fight to have Sean returned to him in the United States. That's something Sean will never forget.
I hope this will be a happy ending for Sean and David Goldman.
Wow - thank you. I could not have expressed that nearly as eloquently as you did, Rozelle. This story has captured my attention for years, and is one that has always bothered tremendously.
I was also concerned with the sadness in Sean's eyes, but it certainly is understandable considering the confusing ordeal that he has been through. I hope so much that this story has a very happy ending for him and David Goldman as well!!!
Please correct the headline excerpt not exceprt. Thanks.
After reading some of the comments, it makes me realize how ignorant people can actually be. Really, is it OK to take a child away from a parent because he "quit working"?...Why didn't Bruna just tell him that she (her family) was not going to support him anymore? There could have been many different outcomes to this situation if there was just a little TRUTH from the beginning. No matter what anyone says; No person has the right to take a child away from their parent without proper measures and a real good reason! Someone mentioned that Bruna’s parents were staying neutral in this whole ordeal; REALLY?? It sounds to me like they were the ones who helped plan the whole abduction of Shawn, and helped their daughter keep Shawn in Brazil; therefore not giving Shawn an opportunity to communicate with his father. SHAME-SHAME !!!!!!! (Just saying)
Tracy...Talk about ignorant.... My comment was other family members remained neutral not Bruna's parents.
David has not allowed any of Bruna's family to visit or speak to Sean.
Since when is that ok! Again ... two wrongs don't make a right.
and ... "quit working" is not the same as quit working and then refusing to even look for
a job even though you are able bodied! Instead, living off of a woman and her money.
There's a word for that. If Bruna's parents or other family members lived in another state
then she would have gone to that state, but they live in another country... Brazil.
That's why she went home. Bruna was exhausted from her relationship with a leach and
needed the support from her family. She wasn't going to leave her only toddler child behind
with a man that had no means to support that child, and up to that point was unwilling to do so!
Had she done that and gone back to Brazil without Sean leaving him with a father who wasn't working
and then if Sean didn't have food, clothes, a roof over his head, or medical care, the same people who
have defended David would have called her an unfit Mother. This was a no win situation for Bruna. She
did what any caring Mother would do.... she didin't leave her child behind with a person who was not
willing to work fearing for that childs well being. All of you are assuming Bruna made a snap decision
based on what you have been spoon fed by a biased media...she did no such thing! She stayed and tried
repeatedly to work things out for the sake of her child. Bruna went into a relationship optimistic about her
future only to be defeated by a person who misrepresented himself and his intentions.
Everyone has a right to their opinion and this obviously is a very emotional story, but the bottom line is that no parent should have his natural born child taken away from him!!!!!!!!
I looked at this interview and while I very happy that David has his son back, I noticed how un-relaxed Sean seemed.
There is a vislble sadness there in that boy -tucked down really deep. You can't go through all that and not be harmed. The USA is nice but Brazil is such a wonderful country so much culture and beautiful weather and wonderful people. This boy spent his formative years in Brazil. I am sorry for both sides and mostly for Sean in this whole predicament.
I am sure deep down Sean misses Brazil and his grandmother and step father. Why can't both sides get together and arrange a supervised visit in Brazil? Heavily Supervised -as in Sean not being allowed out of his father's line of sight but David Goldman should be open and friendly to his late wive's relatives as much as possible. I sympathize for what David went through but there are two sides to a marriage. Sean's mother must have been really unhappy to run away. When I was watching Meredith's interview I felt Sean was bottled up with hesitancy to speak
Poor Kid doesn't want to offend either Dad or the folks in Brazil.
Hang in there Sean. I know it has been rough but maybe you will be able to have that visit with your Brazilian family sooner than you think.Your dad loves you but they love you too and miss you so much.
Keep Smiling Sean- everyone wishes you well and is praying for your continued happiness.